In my appointments, people often ask me; “How do I recognize a spirit guide?”, or “How do I begin to hear and see spirit and tell the difference between my imagination and if it is really spirit talking to me?” The answer is that it is most likely you already talk to spirit, you just don’t know it. Here’s why. Angels, spirit guides and loved ones want us to recognize them. They want us to hear them when they speak to us. They will use the path easiest which is using ‘our mind’s voice’. This is why it’s confusing. Yet, once you begin foloowing a few principles, you can begin to distinquish easily your thoughts from spirit’s.
Attitude and intent is crucial when connecting to the spirit realm. Fear, unfortunately is one of the largest blocks in most people’s success when trying to pursue spirit contact. It can block, hinder or even distort the connection. Fear of the unknown, fear of disturbing their peaceful existence, fear of what to do should you actually make contact!
It is important to let go of unnecessary fears and commit to the realization that those on the other side, both loved ones and our spirit guides and angels, desire us to make contact with them. They are continuously giving us signs from the spirit world trying to reach us and are thrilled when we open ourselves up to the possibility that we truly believe in their existence. They want to acknowledge to you that they are still very much around you, but have simply changed form to that which is spiritual.
Contact with non-physical energies does draw our consciousness away from a physical life focus. It should and is supposed to in order for you to tune in to their vibratory rate. It is vitally important that you stay centered and grounded in all spiritual work to achieve “connecting” in a balanced manner. Practice this by withdrawing your focus from the outer (physical or masculine) world around you and turn toward the inner (spiritual or feminine) world, within you - recognizing both worlds are in equal existence – each possessing its own srength. Remind yourself that you have two bodies, a physical and spiritual side. For instance; as you’re working in the physical such as typing on your computer at your job, remember consciously that you are also spiritual (surrounding yourself with white light so as to thwart off any negative energy from those around you) and you will begin to feel a shift in your overall energy field. You develop an automatic principle for operating in a controlled, balanced manner. Because you continually keep your energy clean and free of housing negative forces however large or small, you will be able to EASILY connect to the spiritual while simultaneously staying connected to the physical. You literally learn to multi task and are “naturally” open to feeling those nudges from spirit. Constantly remind yourself that you always have two sides…spiritual and physical, masculine and feminine. They will begin to morph into a conductor of phenomenal energy vibrations that will open your gifts dramatically. Below are other key points to consider;
The physical body: Proper foods, diet, exercise, being outdoors in fresh air, and even rest is essential to balance the body. If we are relaxed, it is easier for our guides to contact us. That is why they come in on their own when we are dosing off to sleep, for example or just waking up.
Relaxation: Find out what works for you to be at your most relaxed state, maybe introducing certain favorite fragrances, candles, music, etc. Then work on specific parts of your own physical body while in meditation, focusing and relaxing and sending white light to each one.
Breathing: Find a breath count that again, works for you. While inhaling your breath and try visualizing this breath as white pure energy, and while exhaling, see it as exhaling all the dark, negative energy you may be housing.
Raise your vibrations: Do exercises in visualization that will increase the speed of your vibrations and facilitate spirit contact such as envisioning white light at your feet and seeing it swirling up your entire body toward your crown chakra faster and faster. Or perhaps, see yourself as a white light and picture a dial or clock on your chest. Now see the hand on the dial start to spin in a clockwise direction and turn faster and faster with each repetition around the face of the dial. Your energy field is increasing regardless of whether you can actually “feel” it. It is your belief in the fact that you are making something change and happen that will determine your success rate. As with all spiritual exercises, when returning from meditation and back into the physical, visualize the white light swirling around you begin to slow down and gently fall to your feet, or if using the dial, see the hand begin to wind down counterclockwise to a slower speed until it finally comes to a complete stop. Once you feel you are back in the physical…touch something solid to ground yourself and remind your brain that you are indeed in the linear plane. This serves to cut the direct connection to the spiritual so you can go about functioning properly in the physical. You can also eat something. By getting your digestive system working on breaking down food you draw the consciousness fully back into the physical.
Record your experiences: Please remember to record any and all experiences you encounter, see, feel, hear, smell or taste. Do not omit anything. Your guides and loved ones are working hard to build a second language of symbolism with you to increase the amount and the accuracy of information they give to you. You may not understand some or all of what you experience, yet by allowing time to pass you will get validations on the information given to you. By keeping a journal and recording what takes place, you can then review and determine what signs and symbols they use to communicate certain specific elements to you! They will rely heavily on your consistency in remembering what these signs and symbols are. And will re-use these to get you not only information you desire but also information you need.
As you continue practicing meditation you will learn to sense the different vibrations around you. Over time, you will distinctly define spirit guides and what they “feel” like, as well as loved ones and be able to determine who you are being visited by.
I believe that those in spirit can utilize phone lines, electronic devices of any kind, etc., manipulating the energy to use for their own purpose to make just such a connection to us. I’ve seen it countless times. Things otherwise – unexplainable by science or medicine. Mind you, I’m a heathly skeptic, even as a medium, and I believe we all should certainly be a healthy skeptic if not just to eliminate all possibilities of other reasons why the anomaly existed, then be of course open to the fact that we are receiving signs or symbols from them. I personally had a similar experience where, when a friend of mine passed tragic and suddenly, approximately a little over an hour after her passing, her cell phone dialed another mutual friend’s phone while that friend was speaking to the deceased’s husband! Susan’s cell phone was crushed in the accident at the time of her death and it would have been quite impossible her phone to have “mis-dialed” when it lay broken in several pieces at the crash site. I co-wrote a book with Bob Dean a few years back where one of his friends had a similar experience when the cell phone of a son who had just buried his mother, phoned him on its own several times on his way home from her funeral and each time when he answered – no one was there except the sound of church bells. Please know you and your family are in my prayers and my hope is that you find comfort in knowing your brother is in such a peaceful place that this allowed him to be able to reach back to you in this touching way.