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The mind IS a powerful thing. It all begins here...in consciousness. Each of us has an obligation at the soul level to maintain a balance of mind-body-spirit connection that will continue to persue higher growth and learning the most efficient way possible. Now enter earthly perspectives in a linear fashion and things get convoluted. As young minds when we're born, the moment we can reason we begin being subjected to limiting belief mechanisms. Our physical guardians don't do this with intention to diminish our mind - it's just what happens by virtue of them protecting us, guiding us, rainsing us - boundaries in great numbers in all forms - all in the name of rearing us.
Education is what can make an indelible difference in the processes used and the outcomes of young minds thereafter! Soul evolution helps us to see with eyes wide open that while some boundaries are good and necessary, many can be altered to stimulate broader vision, healthier self acceptance, greater use of our innate intuitive abilities for every day living and most of all, our ability to achieve our own happiness and bliss while here on earth!
The catagories below are in no particular order. These topic points developed from years of interviews with thousands of spiritual experts, intuitives, healers, celebrities and clients all talking about "How to best use the mind (our soul consciousness) to be the best we can be!
We collect information continually because we have the ability to do so, but are we so busy collecting it that we can lose sight of divising a means of using it. True measure of any culture and societial group is not what it knows but what it does with what it knows. It's true we use just a fraction of what our consciousness is likely capable of, but don't let that thwart you from attempting to broaden your sensativity to energies and information through awareness.
It all begins here!
Inner Positivity Negativity Hypothesis
When we repeat a skill we are trying to master, we strengthen the neural networks that represent that action. The same happens physically in the brain whether we perform the action, or simply visualize it. Your brain cannot tell the difference between an action you performed and an action you visualized! Neuroplasticity is the ability of the brain to continuously create new neural pathways. This system of brain pathway activity does NOT differentiate whether we are "thinking it" or actually "doing it". I talk about this in a chapter of my new book, "I Am Aware, One truth and many wisdoms" - blending religion and mysticism."
Mysticism's long term quest has been to achieve "union with the Absolute, the Infinite, or God". The tenets of Mysticism and Religion have collided and crossed each other since we began recording time. In the dogma of these philosophies and origins is a worldwide range of religious traditions and practices that started being passed down first orally, without the need for a writing system, then intellect created the demand for recording such information. The belief that union with and absorption in a Deity or the Absolute became common, and that spiritual knowledge can be attained through contemplation and self-surrender. This was THE original belief and if examined from the perspective of conscious thought without boundaries (limitless soul energy) we can begin comprehending its extreme value to our very existence and a perspective's determination factor of whether we grow fast and fluid or slow and stagnated. What these two pieces of knowledge tell us is thought is everything! If we are aware of it and even think about it, it's tangible in our mind's accumulative study in awareness of being conscious. All things matter!
Mastering the skill of unconditional love of self and others can be achieved by just being AWARE of the fact that you can. In full awareness YOU ARE - I AM. Believe what you see and hear in meditation, at the water cooler at work, around the dinner table. As you in-take what you experience, visit it with the perspective of allowing all - and in complete awareness you're open to new perspectives. The acceptence in unconditional love of all and everyone!
Self Love Starts Here
What is Self-Compassion Really About?
When we feel compassion for others, we feel kindness toward them, empathy, and a desire to help reduce their suffering. It’s the same when you are compassionate toward yourself. Self-compassion creates a caring space within you that is free of judgment—a place that sees your hurt and your failures and softens to allow those experiences with kindness and caring. And yet, with all of the wonderful things that come along with being kind to ourselves, we find it hard to actually feel it. Why? Why are we so lacking in self-compassion?
4 Mythical Beliefs about Self-Compassion
The deficiency in self-compassion is likely brought about by these four untrue thoughts:
1. I’m just indulging myself if I’m self-compassionate.
That’s what your inner voice wants you to believe. Most of us have been conditoned to self-judge obsessively. Here's something important that helps you with that little critic—the difference between self-indulgence and self-compassion. Self-compassion involves your health and well-being. Self-indulgence is about getting anything and everything you want without thoughts of well-being. Self-compassion is about becoming aware of and sitting with your pain. Self-indulgence numbs and denies your pain. Learn to recognize the difference.
2. I won’t be motivated if I don’t criticize myself.
Somewhere, deep down, you and I might actually believe that we need that inner critic to keep us motivated in life; that without it, we too easily stray outside the lines. And it’s also possible that the critic evolved to help keep us safe from harm. But guess what? We don’t need it anymore. Being compassionate with ourselves allows for a much healthier, kinder motivation. While the motivational power of self-criticism comes from fear of self-punishment, the motivational power of self-compassion comes from the desire to be healthy and reduce our suffering.
3. It’s selfish for me to be compassionate toward myself.
Many people, women especially, are taught to put others ahead of themselves. Self-compassion can seem like the opposite of what you “should” be doing: taking care of others. But how will beating yourself up help you be kinder to others? The source of our compassion will only be more authentic when we are able to show compassion to ourselves first.
4. Self-compassion is for wimps.
Put on your big girl panties and stop whining! Man up! Pull yourself up by your bootstraps! Our society tends to reward toughing things out more than it does being kind and nurturing to yourself. The truth is that the strongest people are also the ones who can buck cultural norms and feel genuine compassion for themselves and their circumstances.
3 Ideas to Create Compassion for Yourself
Here are three main ways to generate more compassion for yourself.
1. Be kind to yourself
The best way to think about being kind to yourself is to think about a friend. Visualize your best friend and imagine she comes to you and says she is hurting because she was passed over for that promotion at work that she’s wanted for so long. Would you say to her, “Well, it’s probably because you didn’t work hard enough. And you’re too mousy. You should have spoken up about wanting a promotion a long time ago.” Of course not! You wouldn’t say that to a friend! So why say it to yourself? Use that rule - that if you wouldn't say it to a friend or relative DON'T say it to yourself. When you find yourself there - change it. Alter what you say and speak to yourself compassionately. The more you practice it, the easier it gets and the more natural it feels. It’s more likely that you would hug your friend and say, “Oh no! That’s terrible. I know how long you’ve been hoping to get that promotion. Come on, let’s go get some coffee and talk about it?” You can be kind to yourself in this way, too. Treat yourself as you would treat a friend who is suffering. Just as you would hug your friend, soothe yourself as well. Put your hands over your heart or locate the spot in your body where your hurt is hiding and gently place both hands there. Speak kindly to yourself. Call yourself by an endearing name. “Oh, honey. I’m hurting because I wanted that promotion so badly. This is a really hard place to be in right now.”
2. Embrace your common humanity
Many times when you criticize or judge yourself, you feel isolated. It seems as though you are the only one in the world who has that particular flaw. And yet, we are all imperfect. We all suffer. And so we are all connected by our shared humanity. One of the wonderful outcomes of self-compassion is our enhanced sense of belonging, the feeling that we are all in this together. The next time you are looking in the mirror and not liking what you see, remember you are an integral part of a connected, wonderful, learned, miraculous human tribe.
3. Be mindful
How will you know that you are suffering if you are repressing your pain, rationalizing it, or busy with problem-solving? You must allow awareness of your pain to enter in. Being mindful is about noticing what is happening in the moment and having no judgment about it. Notice your hurt and just be with it, compassionately and with kindness. Note that trying to make pain go away with self-indulgence is just another way to repress pain and hurt. Self-compassion is about being with your suffering in a kind, loving way, not about making suffering disappear. We will always have pain. The more you resist your pain, perhaps by trying to make it go away, the more suffering you will experience. Mindfulness allows you to stay with the pain without the resistance. "Soften, soothe, allow.” It combines all three of the components listed above to help generate self-compassion. After thinking about a difficulty we have, find the place in your body that held your problem and then place your hands on it. I then encourage you to just be with your pain—not try to rid yourself of it—and allow kindness and compassion to surround it. Sit in a brief meditation and focus on this. You'll feel kindness for yourself about this very raw area rather than listening to your inner critic. The pain you felt will actually be okay when held in this compassionate space, and you no longer need to be ashamed of feeling pain. The soft waves of compassion will surround you and heal you. From now on you can choose self-compassion in your life, especially when that inner voice starts up.
Three Keys to Staying Committed to your Goals
All people set goals and resolutions, and easily slip back into old habits. We are all haunted by the excuses and “yeah buts” that have cost us countless opportunities for growth and expansion. Many people are attached to comfort, safety, and simplicity. These values are important and can provide much tranquility, though to truly grow and expand we must find an area of our life where commitment supersedes comfort. Treating our bodies well is what matters most. If we respect our soul we will in turn easily respect our body that houses the soul. Commitment to being fit and healthy (not necessarily buff unless this is your personal goal) can be and should be a long term goal and lifestyle. This removes the "work" from being fit as it is simply "normal" to "be, eat and think healthy". You can apply these three keys to mastering commitment to all areas of your life; business, romance, finance, relationships.
Ask yourself; Do your commitments live up to your dreams? What is the thing you would choose to do despite external reward and feedback?
Commitment is what spurs us to take action, and what we would be willing to give 100% to achieve, while putting aside personal gain and recognition. Being committed is a willingness to do whatever it takes to fulfill and follow through on a responsibility. It may not even be what we most enjoy, but none the less, being committed means we are going to do it regardless. Commitment is essential to being a winner and achieving our loftiest goals. Being dedicated and committed is part of growing and transcending to the next level. Each of us comes from a diverse and varied background, and are dedicated to different values and involved in countless missions. Regardless of our path and direction in life, there are three keys to staying committed to your goals. They are: sacrifice, purpose, and determination.
A primary key to knowing we are committed is when we are willing to make sacrifice in order to achieve our goals. Consider the young athlete willing to practice and train countless hours everyday, or anyone in the armed forces who literally sacrifice their life for the greater good. Commitment through sacrifice also relates to the concept of loyalty. Do we stand by our commitment even though it will cause interruptions in other areas of life? If we are willing to give-up the convenient and comfortable options to take a more challenging path, there is a good chance we are committed to this mission.
To have commitment we must find meaning and purpose behind the mission we are pursuing. Purpose is similar to passion, and the development of a passion that spurs us toward our mission is half the battle of achieving goals. Passion is what drives us forward. It’s what gets us out of bed each day and what keeps us awake with excitement at night. Without an inner sense of purpose and motivation, it becomes much more difficult to sustain commitment. Look deep inside yourself and begin examining what ignites your passion for life right now. Explore this area as an area of commitment.
Determination and commitment go hand in hand. There will be inevitable set-backs along the way to achieving success, and without the determination to overcome these road-blocks, commitment begins to waver. We must face obstacles with resiliency and fortitude. This involves learning to problem solve and take the necessary steps to work past barriers. Instead of viewing change and unexpected outcomes as problems we can begin to view them as challenges. We can start to feel invigorated and energized by the chance to rise to the occasion. Being determined means we accept and perceive these challenges as a part of the journey toward the larger accomplishment we are committed to.
Give it a try! Finding the areas of commitment in your life can simplify what you focus on and establish a clearer direction and purpose. Though, at the same time, there may be a cost for the utter dedication it takes to be committed. It takes courage to face the uncertainty, fear, and discomfort of branching out of the ordinary and into the extraordinary. Making a definite decision to be committed means you must take action. This means potential excuses must be accounted for ahead of time, and there can be no more waiting for the perfect moment. You must continue to take action despite resistance. You will encounter other people who are willing to support your cause, as well as people who threaten your insistence and steadfast purpose to it’s attainment. With this in mind, it will be important to hold your course. Develop a plan and examine how determined you really are. Do your goals provide you fulfillment and purpose? Are you willing to make sacrifice? If you have the willpower to follow and maintain the three keys to commitment you will be on your way to influencing others, discovering your life’s purpose, and finding fulfillment through your life’s mission.